Time goes so fast. I’m not saying anything new here, it just hit me today. I have been struggling with the day-to-day of parenthood lately. I have never, ever been a routine person, so when routine sets in I go a little crazy. As we peek around the corner at spring and finish up a marathon of cold days inside - the get up, get ready, go to school, go to work, home, dinner, laundry, bedtime routine – I feel stuck and unproductive in the ordinary. Want to watch ANOTHER show today? yes. Want mac and cheese AGAIN for dinner. Yup, I’m over dinner.Read More
When we talk about the value of a village, one thing we know for sure is that it is so helpful to have other parents around when you need information. What is a doula? Where should I take a childbirth education class? What kinds of activities are available for my toddler? How do I find a pediatrician close to my house? Other parents are a wealth of knowledge when it comes to learning about things we should know for our parenting journey.Read More
I met with a potential volunteer this week. We met for coffee and discussed her excitement about our organization and ways she may be able to contribute. After that, I asked her about her experience so far in preparing for her now 9-month-old baby and for parenthood. She shared with me about how she and her husband took multiple childbirth preparation classes, a breastfeeding workshop, and a newborn care class. She researched everything she thought she needed to know far beyond what she thought was probably "normal". Yet, in her diligence to prepare for the arrival of her baby, no one (and no workshop) prepared her for what happens next… parenthood!Read More
Do you have those friends who read three books a week, do yoga before work, take long evening walks with their partner, and can't stop talking about how great meditation is for your mental health? Yes, me too...and they don't have children.
As a mother of a 5 year old and a toddler, I have this conversation with my friends a lot. Yes, I should be practicing self-care...but when on earth would I? We all KNOW as parents how important it is to take care of ourselves. When we can stay connected to our own well-being, it overflows onto our children and we're more patient, loving, joyful parents. However, knowing and doing are completely different things.Read More
It's the million-dollar question, isn't it? As adults, this question is loaded with additional questions about what true happiness is, fulfillment, success, love, and multiple other connections and connotations that make us generally unable to answer in one simple thought, phrase, or word.
As I reflected on this thought recently, I was brought back to a memory of my son when he was two. One day, when he was in a particularly talkative mood, I was working diligently to engage him in any conversation I could. Because really, what is cuter than a two-year-old having a matter-of-fact conversation with an adult? Little did I know that my effort to engage my son, would truly engage me, and bring a perspective that I wouldn't have ever imagined.Read More
Today I watched my five-year-old son run down the street to play with the neighbor kids. I let him go, as I saw the light in his eyes when the neighbor girl knocked on the door and asked him to play. He was so excited. How could I refuse? I followed him, sitting halfway down the block between where they were playing and our house so he could play, but I could still see him.
The two neighbor children are both seven. They rode scooters and bikes. Then they moved to basketball, and then to driveway hockey. As I watched them play, I listened to their conversations. I could hear some sweet and playful discussion, some negotiation about the rules of driveway hockey, and also some talking down to my son from the older kids.Read More
It has been a long winter. Living in a place that usually has four seasons, I always know winter is coming, and I am usually (moderately ) prepared. At our house, it generally means four months of less time outside and way too much TV. As my son has grown older we would adventure outside no matter what the weather, but this year with a little sister in tow, that has been much harder. This year we also had a lot of snow that stayed for a LONG time...and that meant too much inside time, too much TV, and a lot of crazy for all of us.Read More
Positive parenting practice has been such a gift in my parenting journey. If you ask me in person, I will go on and on about the little actions I see in my children every day that make the hard work so worth it. It is inspiring to know that while I am navigating the ups and downs of raising my kids, I am consciously taking steps to impact my children’s behavior and emotional health in a nurturing and productive way.
But, it’s not easy. It’s not about training our child to act a certain way. It’s about retraining ourselves to understand our own behaviors, and how our behaviors and actions impact our children’s behavior. And let’s face it, re-learning our OWN behavior isn’t easy. Here are a few reasons why it is hard...but totally worth it.Read More
Well, it's been three weeks since I have been to yoga...or the gym...or really done anything for myself. Life, work, a kid and a toddler, a husband, a home, it all seems to consume each and every day no matter how hard I try to schedule in my wellness practice. I have even tried putting yoga on my work calendar to treat it like an appointment that I can't miss...fail. Each day I continue to push my own needs and taking care of myself into last place, and I can't get out of this vicious cycle. Ugh.
It's extra ironic lately because I have become obsessed with wellness, and have been tirelessly working to build this community that will inspire families to implement wellness practice into their homes. But, I am SO intrigued with reading, and learning, and consuming every bit of knowledge about parenting that I can, that I am completely missing the most obvious point...to DO it.Read More
You are not alone. Like me, if you were around in the early 90's when the iconic Michael Jackson song came out, the next thing that may come to your mind is, "I am here with you." Whatever that statement brings to your mind, the better (and more relevant) thought that comes to me next is...Don't we all just need to hear that once in awhile?
A truth in the journey of parenting is that we can often feel alone. Fortunately, the real truth is that you are not alone. Let me tell you why...
There are many (SO many) parents who are going through the exact same tantrum, talk-back, let-me-do- it-myself, frustration, freak-out, hiding from their child in the closet kind of moment...right now...literally...at this very moment.Read More
It takes a village. Right? The difference now from the time this saying was likely coined, is that our villages consist of technology, fast food, fast pace, and the many "things" that take us through each day. But, what if we go back to that simple phrase and look at what that could really mean for us in our busy, technology-driven, mass-produced lives?
When I think of a village, I think of small children playing in the sunshine. Families growing food, telling stories passed down from generations before and supporting each other in the joys and struggles of life. I see presence. People present in the moment, peaceful. Grateful for what is and what could be, and being reminded of that daily from the beauty of their surroundings, their friends, and their children.Read More